With Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram these days when most people see our posts of our kids cuddling or sharing great sibling moments or fun times at the splash park all we can think is,”Wow, she is so put together. She is so crafty. She is so in shape. She is so ________(fill in the blank.” But let’s face it, we don’t post our kids screaming in the middle of Target or our kids yelling, “I HATE YOU!” for the first time or those awesome rainbow cupcakes we attempted from a Pinterest post that looked like mud. Why not? Why don’t we show that side of our lives?
This summer was the shortest, albeit the hardest for me as a mom. My baby boy is now a talking, imitating and a dramatizing toddler and his brother is now 6. Whilst most the time they are sweet to each other, I got a punch in the gut of reality this summer with the life of siblings. REAL SIBLINGS. See, I am an identical twin with no other siblings. So we didn’t argue or bicker a whole heck of a lot. And, we are girls too (not that it might make a difference but thought I’d throw it in there). I cried more this summer to my husband than I have in over a year. I yelled at my kids more than I have in all of Kelton’s 6 years of life. And, it was then that I asked Him to help me see this situation the way He wanted me to see it. Not the way others see it, not the way my heart is tempted to see it, but the way He sees it.
24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”-Matthew 7:24-27 (ESV)
Do you know what amazes me about these verses? Both the person doing right and the person doing wrong experienced hard times. In each case the rains came, the streams rose and the wind blew and beat against the house. Just because we’re parents living out God’s principles for life doesn’t mean we won’t face difficult circumstances. I went from defining myself as a failure of a mom to being a praying mom who can face hardships in a godly way. The frustration diffused as I determined to look at the situation from God’s perspective.
There is no perfect mom. There is no Pinterest life. Sure, I have a very strong marriage and some great kids, but us moms need to show the world that we make mistakes. That we sometimes can’t handle it all. Sometimes teachers at the end of the year just won’t get a gift. Sometimes mom totally forgets to pick up her child from Kids Day Out (not that I would know, eh hum). Sometimes we get to the store and have a poopy diaper and no diapers.
Let’s post those pics. Let’s show the world our failed dinner attempts and our kids crying their heads off because their cheerio fell on the floor. Let’s show selfies of us with no makeup and our hair greasy and unwashed for days. Because that is life. That is most every mom’s life. Let’s be real and know that He has it. He always has. Just as long as you ask Him for guidance and grace. Hashtag it: #letsberealmoms